An unexpectedly brief sex session is not generally welcomed in the sack, but the fact is that it can happen to anyone and that there are a lot of things you can do about it. Here are some tips for lasting longer and going into overtime in the bedroom.
Taking a break doesn’t necessarily mean hopping up to get a drink of water (although it can), but you can also take sex breaks that don’t quit in the pleasure department. Pull out for a while and stimulate her in any other way…fingers, mouth, giving her some clitoral action with the head of your penis. The key is to figure out what will let you cool down (a degree or so) so that you can heat back up again without boiling over right at the start.
Yes, you are. Some thinking is okay in bed because you want to, you know do well, but getting caught up on how it’s going is a death sentence. If your sexy time has ever been cut short by your inability to keep it up, you might just be experiencing some good old performance anxiety. Instead of stressing out about what she’s thinking you can always ask. Most women will be pretty upfront with their needs and wants in bed. Focus on connecting to her as a person and not as a hopeful orgasm and you’ll be more likely to notice the subtle clues her natural responses are trying to tell you.
Take it Slow
Pounding away is fine some of the time, but it’s usually not the best way to heighten pleasure and it’s bound to cut things off early. Think less like a masturbating teen in a rush to avoid getting caught and more like an adult that has the capacity to savor the moment. There are more opportunities to connect when you’re moving slow with intention, and it will still be hot enough to get you both where you need to go.
Train Yourself to Last Longer
If you’re willing to put in some work you can actually train yourself to last longer by practicing a specific rhythm with your thrusts. Think a few fast followed by a few slow and repeat. The slow time can be enough to pull you back from the brink without stopping the action. In addition to switching up the pace, you can also alternate between thrusting deep and thrusting shallow to keep things switched up.
Strengthen Your Pelvic Floor
You’ve probably heard of the kegal exercises the ladies are suggested to do down there, but something similar might be helpful to you as well. Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles by regularly squeezing them internally can actually stop premature ejaculation in it’s tracks. To make sure you’re squeezing the right muscles, they’re the ones that would stop your pee flow if you squeezed them mid stream.
Eat Your Veggies
Well guys, one study done at Yale found that vegetarian men had about double the general stamina as their meat eating counterparts. Does that mean you need to quit burgers? No, but it does mean you should be keeping up with your fitness routine and feeding your body healthy, unprocessed food options whenever possible. Your sex life might just depend on it.